What I learned in the year 2020

Here are some things that I wish I could share with my high-school version.

1) You don’t have it all figured out

As a teenager, the only thing that I dearly wanted was to have it all figured out. Throughout my high school, I loved singing and writing. My parents knew this, yet they advised me to choose a career that would earn me good money because, according to them, they did not want me to face the things that they did.

As soon you reach the senior year of high school, your parents and relatives expect you to choose a career that would earn you good money and respect. More often than not, other people will start taking interest in your future goals and plans.

They may not intend to pressurize you in anyway, but you may eventually start feeling the burdened to live up to other people’s expectations. No matter what happens – always prioritize your mental health. If you don’t feeling satisfied with no-matter-what-you-do, approach an elder or visit a psychiatrist.

Involve in activities that will make you happy in long-term and you’ll eventually discover your passion.

2) You don’t have to find your soulmate to feel complete.

“And they lived happily ever after. The movie came to an end.

We all grew up watching movies that, at some point, made us feel that finding that one perfect person would complete us or at least….. they would make us feel better about ourselves.

Characters like Cinderella and Snow White inspire young girls to grow up as soft-spoken and obedient to find their prince. I do not remember watching a single cartoon that ended by the transformation of a young girl into a strong person who did not need a Prince!

Do you remember any of those cartoons? Please mention down in the comment section below.

Of course, the motives behind these movies are to teach girls the moral values and basic outdated girly etiquette which actually does more harm than good. These young girls grow up into believing that they need a prince who would free them from all their earthly sorrows.

Trust me, I am not exaggerating. I have seen such girls.
Well……To be frank, I was one of them!

What I want you to understand is that you’ll find your soulmate only and only when you find yourself.

Your soulmate is not meant to complete you, but complement you.’

4) Finding your passion

Back when I hit my sweet-16, I was desperately trying to figure out my passion. After couple of month I realized that I wanted to become a Doctor, but I was wrong. I eventually realized that I was attracted only to the prestige and attractive package.

Teenage is a phase where you’ll learn to differentiate between things that are meant for you and that are not. Instead of concentrating your focusing on getting good grades and a good job, then analyze what you really want in life. Don’t forget to eliminate money from the equation.

Make a list of things that you want to try out and gradually shift your focus on things that make you feel happy and alive (in long-term).

Most importantly, be yourself. If you are an introvert and prefer to socialize less, go ahead. If you are an extrovert who can not stand being alone, then so be it. But remember – do not bully other people into accepting your perspectives. What makes you feel good, may not feel that good to the other person.

5) Reading is important

“Always read something that will make you look good if you die in the middle of it.” – Satirist P. J. O’Rourke

Hmmm…..very comforting advice it seems. But jokes apart, you should read more often.

Do not think that reading is limited only to books and novels. It includes reading blog posts, newspapers and articles as well. Talking about books, not every book is meant to be read till the end. As Francis Bacon sad, “Some books are to be tasted, others to be swallowed, and some few to be chewed and digested.”

Some people are usually fascinated by the obsession of bibliophiles. Not because they wish to be like them, but because they get bored after reading merely the 1st two pages of a book or novel.

What I want you to understand is that reading becomes boring and burdensome mostly when you choose topics that are not your cup if tea. Explore your interests and read content that are relevant to your field of interest.

What do you think of these advices? Is there something you’d like to add to it?
Your opinions are valuable, please mention them in the comment section down below.